In dealing with matters of the heart, here is my advice. Firstly, how do you measure a man's sense of trust? By first knowing where his or her heart is. Where your heart is, there your special love will be also. Love and soul were meant to be together. You cannot love something without being possessed by it. What you love possesses you. Similarly, you can't love two things at the same time.

In a relationship love is for two people; the third person is an intruder. You cannot love two people at the same time with the same strength. Wisdom says you cannot serve two masters at the same time. You will love the one and hate the other. Your heart is the fairest umpire; it judges a man's intentions. Where your love is, there your heart will be also. That's why men leave and join their own wives.

If we had always been where our deepest love was, we would have avoided a lot of uncomfortable circumstances in life. If you ever become confused by two options, my counsel would be: choose the one closest to your heart. If you are in a dilemma between two persons, choose the one your heart accepts, because it’s impossible to deceive your own heart!

Secondly, beloveds ought to be loved at all costs. In marriage, love is the aura that circles the marriage throne. No other priority should be allowed to come before this. Love should be cultivated and nurtured daily. Make your partner the centre of attraction.

Thirdly, love should not be a one-sided affair. Develop it mutually. Learn to do things together. Find things that you both like and do them together. Look for opportunities to do or share something together. When one partner makes a move, it ought to be complemented by appropriate feedback from the other. Be compatible—strengthen the inner qualities of reverence, value, and equity. Be happy to be involved with each other.

Fourthly, long to be where the object of your love is. Beloveds should always be together, except when they have to be separated temporarily by the routines of work or other events. Beloveds should desire each other’s company and be fulfilled in it. They should learn to value each other’s presence, to sup together, and to cry together. They say that precious are the tears of a lover! Stand together and help each other. Do not uncover the nakedness of the one you love; neither wash their linen in public. But defend each other and be guardians of one another’s interests.

Lastly, fulfill each other in conjugal commitments. Let not your lover long for the outside comfort when she can find it within. In marital love, the satisfaction of your partner should precede your own. It is important therefore that lovers learn to know each other and discover ways in which to please each other. Sexually, understand what makes your partner happy, and patiently desire to consummate her every instinct. What you love appreciates, and what you don’t appreciate depreciates! I am saying, “Do not hire a lover; acquire one.”