35 Signs You’re in Love
1. You keep saying his/her name without thinking
2. You fail to justify why you love him/her
3. You justify why his/her weaknesses are his strengths
4. You overlook his/her short-comings and mistakes
5. You defend his/her stupidity
6. You are not ashamed to walk hand in hand with him/her
7. You are eager to talk about him/her to your circle of friends
8. His/her size, shape, height or weight don’t bother you at all; you only see a great human being
9. You love him/her for who he/she is and not for what he/she has or does
10. You always want to be where he/she is
11. You lose appetite in his/her presence
12. You are now an expert is the phrase, “I Love You.”
13. Clothes don’t appear on his/her body any more
14. You can’t wait to kiss him/her or to have sex with him/her, but you’re willing to wait if that will threaten your relationship
15. You’re visibly restless in his/her presence
16. You laugh even when it is not funny
17. A smile on your face is the latest attire you wear these days, especially if his/her face is the one you meet
18. He/she is like a baby who needs deep care from you, and yet like an adult who should work just for you
19. When eating out and picnics now replace studying and working out
20. Distance is now measured in heartbeats
21. You don’t know if you have a heart or mind of your own any more
22. When missing doesn’t mean falling short but only pain
23. In a world with six billion people, he/she is the only person living; others are merely exiting
24. When little things mean so much
25. When the rose is the only flower you know
26. When apology becomes your next of kin
27. You’re suddenly a love poet
28. You can’t define it, but you know it is love
29. You’re stupid enough to give your bank details to him/her
30. You now shop in relation to him/her
31. You don’t know who you are any more
32. You can’t differentiate between a dream and reality
33. You think you love him/her enough to lay your life for them
34. You think you’re incomplete without him/her
35. He/she is the only thing that matters, reason and other people’s opinion don’t counts any more.
HOW TO WIN A LOVER’S HEART
The heart, yes the heart, is what you need to win in order to get your lover. But remember, the heart is one complicated piece of matter. It can be light and happy, heavy and sad, whole and complete or broken and unfulfilled. Winning the heart means heightening its state of happiness and wholeness. When you say that you’ve won a lady, what do you mean? Simple: It means you’ve brightened your lover’s heart – she’s happy and she feels complete with you. Period!
The Heart’s a Window
They say that eyes are the windows of the soul – I say that they are just one of the windows. To win a lover all the five senses are involved, sometimes alone, while other times in concert.
The Eyes: Ladies’ (and guys’) eyes respond to beauty, elegance, flamboyance, colour, style, and etcetera. To win her, appeal to what she can see: speak to her beauty, colour of her trappings and trimmings, to her elegance, sophistication, classiness, embellishes, superfluities and sense of fashion.
The Ear: Ladies want to hear – respond to her craving for popularity, fame, good report. Remember, when a lady has heard sufficiently enough about you, or if people talk lots about you – she could be half way in your catch!
Smell It: Look, if you think aroma, perfumes and fragrances don’t matter to you, they do to ladies. She doesn’t wear her perfumes by accident, and neither does she do so by mistake. She knows and she wants to smell good so that someone can appreciate her. Why don’t you start from there? Don’t ever forget, a little nod to her sense of “sweet” scent may give you an upper hand.
Let Her Feel It: You hear me right, feeling is the ultimate catcher. Here are a few secrets – she can be all that grouchy and indifferent, but a little humour may lighten her up a bit – just on the way towards your coop up. Here is another, a compliment can do wonders, a gentle and meaningful smile can grant you direct access to her heart, a calculated whisper may smoothen her way to betting on you, a cuddle, an embrace, and a smooth touch could win you the trophy. But guys you know, and if you didn’t, now know, chivalry has not perished – don’t be in a hurry to open that car door for her, or to pick up when she drops – just pure gentility.
The Taste Never Lies: It could be a peck or a kiss at departure time, but in whatever form it comes, the impact is everlasting, and could be just what holds you the veneer.
Love is a Feeling, First and Last
Firstly, most people get it wrong, love, to ladies, is an impulse not reason. Falling in love is “feeling” loved, not thinking loved. There you have it, you don’t win her by argument or by advancing a proposition – you might need 100 years to accomplish that. Simple: on reason, you simply can’t match up, because for you “yes” is “yes” but not to her. A “no” could just as well be a “yes.” But you may never know. Short cut, offload the “feeling” barrel; you will always hit the target.
Secondly, you don’t win her by “conquering” her. Rather, by surrendering to her. Are you surprised? You better not, because most men think they can use their masculinity to win girls over. It just doesn’t work. You may be the captain of your national league or the general of the greatest army on earth or the strongest man in history, but that doesn’t move her a bit. With ladies, you win by losing – you conquer her by allowing her to conquer you. Let her feel she’s caught you, and not that you’re catching her.
Thirdly, ladies spend a vast amount of time thinking about how they look. Spending your first moments talking about how she looks, will catch her at her game. It doesn’t matter how indifferent she may be, she’ll give you some time. If, for some reasons she doesn’t just like you, at least she’ll be glad you recognized her efforts at beauty. If she does like you, you may win her at first glance. To think about a lady, think about her in terms of outward appearance first. You’ll reach her heart faster by the way of the senses.
Fourthly, with ladies, colour talks. Honestly, with guys colour is simply the combination of a rainbow spectrum. Ladies speak through colour; they may express happiness, sadness, disappointment, and etcetera. No offence intended, but a lady wearing bright colours is saying things like, “I am happy with myself.” Dull colours may speak just that, dullness. So how do you respond to her dress and colour? Answer, accordingly. Even in a dull colour say, “Hi, you look great in that colour.”
Fifthly, ladies believe what you tell them about themselves. You’re a guy and you have a wife, girl-friend or lover, try to tell her early in the morning when she dresses for work that her attire doesn’t strike vogue, and you destroy every bit of confidence in her. Even if you didn’t intend to spoil the party, but you’ve done just that.
Here is the best attitude, say, “I like that, but I’d have loved such and such combination more.” You get the point? If you do, she will as well. Similarly, tell the girl she’s ugly, chances are, she’ll believe you – and hate you for it. Tell her she’s pretty, she’ll believe you – and love you for it. Rule of thumb is, always try to be a gentleman to her, even when you don’t believe so.
Sixthly, and I know you may not agree with me at first, ladies love to lead, but they love to do so behind the scenes. Let me elaborate. Every lady, in public, wants to give people an impression you’re in charge. But in actual sense, she loves to be in charge. Say something without her approval, and hell breaks loose on you, when you reach your privacy. Again, rule of thumb is, let her rule your world in private – not without your consent, of course. In public, you take the lead, but with her consent, of course.
Seventhly, let her think all you have is hers. It is not wrong to think all you have is yours, because it is. But ladies think differently. To be perceived as thinking like that, to most ladies, points to only one thing: selfishness, selfishness, and selfishness. How many times have you heard comments like, “I left him because he only thinks about himself”? The truth is, she thought you thought less about her. So what’s the secret? Guess you know, let her think everything you have is hers. After all, it is just thinking, everything is still yours. What is more, she may be all yours as well!
Finally, talk about your interest in the kitchen, and not in the office, field or bedroom, whichever may be the case. Most guys think, “Am going to impress her with my seniority or prowess.” Not so with girls. Impress them with the soft side of life, like, “I like preparing dinner, volunteering in the kitchen and doing house chores.” Once you win her heart, the bedroom door will open automatically. Get it? The same is true when you talk about yourself in terms of babies. Not that you’re a baby-making machine, but that you love babies, especially if you can say, “I love changing baby diapers!”